Sunday, June 6, 2010

Challenge 148: The study of love

June 6, 2010

Oh love. One of my favorite topics that rarely gets any face time on my blog. Or rather, relationships. I am so curious about people. I watch interactions and I just imagine what's going between two people, brothers and sisters, wives and husbands, friends.

How do we end up together? What needs to be there in order for it to work? How or why do we stay partners, friends, family?

Lately I've been watching the relationship of someone I know and it doesn't look pretty. Not a good match, not enough of the same common goals or similar enough lifestyle. Almost nothing seems to be on the same page naturally, but yet, both people say they deeply love each other and feel a deep soul connection. It's hard to believe. And not to judge. Because from the outside it looks like rules being placed on one person to the other and demands that things change completely. Now I see both people, not as happy (seemingly to my eyes at least) as they were when they weren't together. It doesn't seem that the union brings out the best in either of them, but to the contrary, it seems that the worst is coming out.

How can they not see it? Why is it that in relationships, none of the same rules apply? That things can be wrong, seem wrong and even feel wrong but yet we stay. I can postulate a million different reasons or try to come up with a formula, but it seems that every single relationship must be taken on a case by case basis. What goes into it, what happens within it, how soon (or not) you get out of it. What's the tipping point? Or breaking point?

I don't know the answers but I just keep wanting to ask. I feel like there is so much to know. To look at. To learn and study. I want to do more of it and forever. I keep waiting til everything falls into place with my interests...coaching, relationships, the study of people, music. Don't know quite yet how it's all going to fit together.

Anyway, off to a street fair in my neighborhood before buckling down for work.

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